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March 19, 2014

Yesterday a customer came into the store and managed to permeate the joint with her vibe in a very short period of time.  She wasn’t really unpleasant, but she was certainly vocal.  Her four favorite words were “I don’t like that.”

She used those four words a lot.

She didn’t like that color, she didn’t like that shape, she didn’t like that style, she didn’t like that fabric, she didn’t like that design, she didn’t like that fit, she didn’t like much of anything.

It reminded me of when the Jr. Spark and the Sparkettes were toddlers and loved to say no just because they could.

It’s good to know one’s own mind.  It’s also good to be able to effectively advocate for one’s preferences.  But if the professional is telling you that your preferences are actually mutually exclusive, you might want to consider that perhaps you are too picky and opinionated to ever truly experience satisfaction, and you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of disappointment, as well as a pattern of disappointing interactions with others.

You might also want to ask yourself why you have so many preferences that you become rigid and inflexible, unwilling to explore and experience new things, unwilling to change.

Humans are creatures of habit, but we are also creatures who bore easily.  We need stimulation and excitement.  I think God intentionally wired us that way so we’d never settle for the mediocrity of the existence of a lower-level animal who lives to eat, sleep, and mate, and doesn’t care a thing for reading books, writing music, or playing football.  He designed us for greatness, just a little lower than the angels.  Inflexibility doesn’t serve us well.  Or Him.

My co-worker eventually performed some sort of magic trick and found a few things the customer actually loved, and I’m glad for that.  But the incident stuck with me.

Inflexibility is what gives the impression of getting old.  I’m talking the fuddy-duddy kind of old.  When we get stuck on the music and fashion of our youth, when the way we grew up is the only legitimate way to grow up, when we’re quick to criticize the preferences and passions of younger people without trying to understand what it is that makes those preferences and passions attractive, we set ourselves up for disappointing interactions with others who’ve found great satisfaction outside of our chosen preference.  We build walls instead of doorways and bridges.

It’s too bad, really.  We could all learn so much from each other.


6 Comments leave one →
  1. March 19, 2014 1:25 am

    Isn’t life really wonderful when (or if) you open yourself up to new experiances? If if they are not so pleasant, at least if makes you feel something, appreciate the good, and lets you know you are alive and participating in life. (hope the italics work) :-)

    • March 19, 2014 7:38 am

      Yes! That is exactly it! Great job putting it into words!

  2. March 19, 2014 9:09 am

    Absolutely true! A great post to keep us all from getting “stuffy” with blind ignorance. :D

    • March 19, 2014 9:13 am

      It’s easy to do…but absolutely unnecessary, you know?

  3. March 20, 2014 9:43 am

    I’m always astounded at how many things people have an opinion about. Most of the things they are either ranting or raving about have absolutely nothing to do with their lives really. And the few things that they speak about that do have something to do with their lives, are minuscule and will be forgotten tomorrow or they will have changed their minds about it.

    Now then, am I just as bad as the rest? I don’t think so. At least, I hope I’m not. Life is going to go on whether we have opinions about what it involves or not. And it goes pretty fast too. Why spend so much time on such trivial stuff?

    • March 20, 2014 9:57 am

      Like I’ve heard it said…opinions are like buttholes. Everyone’s got one, and everyone thinks theirs it the only one that doesn’t stink. ;)

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