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Choose your yes carefully

May 13, 2015

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

-Eleanor Roosevelt

Some days I’m completely baffled by the arbitrary standards of acceptance and admiration that surround me.

Be willowy-thin…but consider plastic surgery to get a bigger booty.

Have a career you’re passionate about…but put your family first.

Paint your home a soothing palette of neutrals…but dare to make a statement with bold color.

Speak up…but mind your own business.

Be your unique self…but follow all the trends.

Who you are, what you do, what you think, what you feel.  There’s always another opinion, and that other opinion can leave a person feeling, well…less than, as if those who think or do differently are inferior.  Because maybe that other opinion is better, we think. It’s at least louder, with an army of bobble heads in agreement.

Surely the bobble heads couldn’t be wrong?

The Eleanor Roosevelt quote is great.  I would argue, however, that feeling inferior in and of itself isn’t a show-stopper.  We all sometimes feel things that we know aren’t reflective of reality.  That doesn’t make them true.  Just because we feel them doesn’t mean we have to park there and coddle that feeling and give it agreement.

Feeling inferior only gets to stick around if you entertain it and agree with it.

I’d like to encourage you to not entertain it and agree with it.  Inferiority is terrible company.  It has perfectly awful manners and is a world-class troublemaker.  It often tries to pull itself off as humility, which is a big fat lie because that kind of “humility” is really just Inferiority partnering with Fear.  And nothing good comes from those two being in cahoots.

If you’re going to consent to feeling something, why not feel joy?  Why not feel peace?  Why not feel loved?  Why not feel infused with outrageous hope?  These things are permissible and beneficial.

You have permission to give permission.  May you give your yes to life.

8 Comments leave one →
  1. May 13, 2015 9:33 am

    Thank you, I needed this today :) Bless you and your cotton socks!

  2. May 13, 2015 11:01 am

    I think I definitely needed to read this today. I went to my first meeting for a new homeschooling group last night (new city, new state, etc). One lady I talked to was really nice, and said her son was just finishing up in a language immersion school. Another two kids had 17 character long gaelic names I can’t pronounce/remember. I spent last night feeling….mediocre? Homeschooling groups are tough. Mostly just on yourself :) I think I have to say yes to “be true to thineself.”

    • May 13, 2015 11:22 am

      Sometimes that’s a tall order, eh? Especially when you’re somewhere and you’re feeling all beige. But just in case you need to hear it, you are ANYTHING but mediocre!

  3. May 15, 2015 11:46 am

    I need this everyday! I also think insecurity and inferiority make you just more self-obsessed which is the opposite of humility. We basically need to get over it so we can get on with it! :)

    • May 15, 2015 11:48 am

      Agreed! The thing you focus on is the thing you empower…and the last thing I need to empower is self-obsession!

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