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Unfriendly fire

June 4, 2020

Dozens of times every day we get to make decisions about how we’re going to respond to what is happening around us. Sometimes those decisions are easy. Sometimes they challenge us to the core. One of the most challenging things for me personally to process is friendly fire in the kingdom.

Friendly fire (noun)
weapon fire coming from one’s own side, especially fire that causes accidental injury or death to one’s own forces. (Source:

Friendly fire is still fire. And when you take a hit, you know beyond any doubt that it’s not friendly at all.

I don’t know the person who posted this on Facebook, but she summed it up so well:

When we’re busy fighting each other, we fail to rightly discern and address the real enemy. Our truest and deepest struggle is not against flesh and blood (people). Our weapons of true and effective warfare aren’t firearms, projectiles, blades, or explosives. Go read Ephesians 6:12 and 2 Corinthians 10:4 if you want to see exactly how the scriptures word it.

Behind our struggles is a very real and malicious source of power that has no personal authority to do anything until it has gained agreement from humans. When we agree with hate, rage, murder, slander, fear, and all the other destructive attitudes and behaviors, we empower the spiritual forces of darkness to grow legs and faces and begin manifesting all that awful stuff right in front of us…and sometimes even through us.

The kingdom of God thrives in unity and diversity. It does not, however, require uniformity. We desperately need the vast and wildly diverse variety of callings, convictions, and personalities in order to manifest God’s goodness, peace, and justice on this earth…even when those callings seem diametrically opposed to one another. When we decide to war with each other over the legitimacy of one another’s personal kingdom assignment, we’re not only missing the point, we’re empowering and furthering the demonic agenda and polluting the atmosphere with a stink that reeks of hell, and not of hope and real transformation.

Be assured that I am not in any way saying that we will not or should not have struggles. There are definitely things worth struggling against and injustice is one of them. But we complicate our struggles when we gracelessly take aim at those who desire reform but are going about it in a way that we either don’t understand or with which we don’t agree. The kingdom is far less “either-or” and far more “yes-and” than we typically recognize. Our willingness to be cheerleaders and advocates for those who are operating in assignments and spheres of influence that are foreign to our own ways of thinking and methods of operation is vital to the health of the kingdom of a God who is invested in both love and justice.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: if your weapon of choice is anything other than love, then I daresay you’ve misunderstood the war.

So what can we do?

-Seek to understand. Ask someone you disagree with to tell you what’s on their heart, and listen without trying to convert them to your thinking. It’s a powerful and transformative thing to be understood, even when it doesn’t result in agreement.

-Refuse to be offended. Even when someone is being legitimately offensive.

-Refuse to be combative, accusatory, demeaning, or rude in the name of defending God. He is more than capable of defending his own character.

-Don’t fall into the trap of taking the bait of every argument offered to you.

-Bless those who are operating in assignments you don’t understand.

-Be very slow to say that something is evil or wrong just because it’s not how you see things.

-Do not cherry-pick scriptures to back up your personal positions while condeming someone else’s positions when they can do the exact same thing back to you. Contradicting positions often mean you’re working towards the same goal from different angles. Humbly ask God to show you the truth about how he sees people and situations, rather than demanding an argument from another human.

-Seek God’s heart, and keep that position in front of you as you process and discern. Anything we do or say in the absence of that is a short trip toward a violation of kingdom intention and principles…and the heart of God. It’s a violation of love.

You are on this planet for such a time as this. The timing isn’t accidental. YOU are not accidental. You don’t need a public platform to have a profound influence on the future through the choices you make today. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.

Love will indeed win. May it win through us and not in spite of us.

4 Comments leave one →
  1. June 4, 2020 12:57 pm

    Thank you as always. I actually shared your quote about love and misunderstanding the battle yesterday as it popped up in my memories.

    • June 4, 2020 1:07 pm

      I may have said it, but that quote regularly preaches to me!

  2. June 4, 2020 8:21 pm

    Thank you. Thanking God for the wisdom He gives you. I want so much to get past reacting when what someone says from the heart gets under my skin. I know those are times the Father wants to teach me and I want to have a humble, teachable heart. Truly our battle is NOT against flesh and blood. I love you, Lisa. 😘

    • June 4, 2020 9:14 pm

      I’m still on that journey myself. But we have this confidence: Jesus is on it with us, and he promises he’ll stick close as we learn and grow. Love you, Ann. ❤️

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