Some things sound easy but end up being far more complicated than could ever seem reasonable.
I bet you’re wondering if I have a for-instance.
Why, yes. Yes, I do. Thank you for asking.
I was doing a bit of reading about voltage converters for my upcoming trip to Brazil when I saw mention that using one will often kill your hair appliances, or at the very least, damage them and void their warranties. That is when I remembered how poorly my hair dryer performed in Poland, even though I was using the proper converter. It barely ran, and it got hot and made weird noises.
Kinda like me.
I have a high-end flat iron right now that I do not want to kill. And my hairdryer isn’t high-end, but it’s still very functional and I like it. So really, it makes sense to just invest in some inexpensive dual voltage hair tools that I’ll keep for traveling.
The hair dryer actually will be easy enough. The flat iron is about to make me crazy.
Forty kajillion brands, thirty-nine kajillion of them rather shady sounding, consumer ratings all over the place, prices equally all over the place.
Which one will work well but not fry off my hair? I don’t know.
And then there’s the shoe issue.
I need a pair of black sandals. Dressy-casual, good support, comfortable enough for standing for long periods of time. Nothing that looks too flip-floppish. I’m not dying to wear black sandals, but they’ll match pretty much everything I’m packing, so it only makes sense to ignore all the pretty colors and go for sensible black. Besides, I’ll be able to wear them to work.
My feet aren’t always so easy to fit. And I’m very picky about how my shoes look and feel, because uncomfortable feet are a miserable life distraction. My trip to the Merrell, Clark, and Rack Room outlet stores was a strike-out, as was the trip to Belk and a local quality shoe store. I can’t just buy shoes online…I have to try them on first.
By the end of the day I realized that I was being distracted and bested by simple things.
I wish I could say it’s the first time in my life that has happened. It would be better said that I’m a pro at it.
I don’t know how to figure these things out and make these decisions. I don’t know what investments are wise, and what products will serve me well. But the great thing is that I don’t have to know. God already has it figured out. And I have a fabulous group of people praying for every little need I could possibly have related to this trip.
So now I wait to see where He leads, how He provides, and what wisdom He gives. It’s time to stop letting this be so hard. It’s better to walk in confidence that when I come across His yes, I will know it.
He’s really good at this stuff.
It’s funny how sometimes the more you drink, the thirstier you are.
I have to wonder if we somehow learn to tune out our thirst and call it something else, pouring all sorts of things into ourselves that aren’t pure, aren’t water. We become dull and sluggish and we can’t figure out why.
Until, that is, we draw a tall cool glass and throw back our heads and drink…and drink…and drink.
It’s as if that water both satisfies something desperate in us and ignites a deeper thirst. The more water we drink, the more our bodies crave it.
That thirst doesn’t stop with our bodies. At least it doesn’t with mine.
I find myself thirsty these days. Sometimes I wonder how it is that someone who has abandoned herself to a wild river could claim thirst. And yet here I am, parched and drowning at the same time.
Am I the only one?
I’ve heard a lot of people call for revival lately. I wonder what they mean by that.
Sometimes it feels like when people who walked with Jesus didn’t understand why He came and they kept waiting for a political solution to a much bigger problem. People’s hearts were lost, their minds were darkened, they were separated from God with no way to be reunited with Him because sin was always in the way. No sacrifice had yet been made for it. And yet folks were expecting Jesus to become a great king and make all the countries who were being mean to Israel bow down instead. It’s as if they couldn’t grasp that they were calling for a ruler with whom they could have no real peace. You know…because of that sin thing. They wanted to be vindicated in the eyes of their enemies.
Jesus had a totally different agenda. He came to establish a kingdom, but not the kind they expected.
When I hear calls for revival today, they often seem tied to making people follow the rules and behave. The mindset seems to be that if we had revival, people would get right with God and behave righteously and stop being so difficult to be around. Then we wouldn’t have to be so uncomfortable with their humanity…or fearful of our own.
I believe Jesus still has a totally different agenda. And He’s still looking to establish a kingdom, and it’s still not the kind people expect.
I need the kingdom. His kingdom. I need to be an active giver in the kingdom, and I need to receive from the kingdom. I thirst for that power that blows the dust out of my corners and washes the muddy tracks off my carpets, the power that then flows through me to yank open the heavy doors in other people’s dungeons.
I ache for it.
There is a kingdom where I am not disqualified because of my screw-ups, but am instead qualified by His righteousness. Where nothing is impossible, where miracles are signs that brings me to my knees in wonder. Where grace is never given begrudgingly, but is poured out generously on the ragamuffins like me who know they’re sunk without it. Where love rules…love reigns…love wins.
I need it. I’m so thirsty my bones ache for it.
May the floodgates be opened.
I wonder if penguins dream of flying.
I wonder if eagles dream of swimming.
I wonder how often our dreams reflect something we could potentially do if we work hard enough, and how often they reflect what we can’t do, and were never built to do.
This is America and we like to tell our kids they can be anything they want. But that’s not true. If you’re color-blind, you aren’t likely to be a great interior decorator. If you’re tone-deaf, you’re not going to be a music star. It’s not that someone is trying to kill your dreams. It’s just that your dreams don’t fit you.
Watch an episode of American Idol auditions and you’ll understand what I mean.
We probably don’t dream big enough most of the time. But I find myself wondering how often we waste time and energy pursuing dreams that we’re not built to achieve. And I wonder what incredible things aren’t happening because we’re too distracted to bring our real game to a world that needs what we were really designed to offer.
It started out like any other Sunday morning. It seemed ordinary enough at the time, but I suppose that’s true of most moments in life. Everything is ordinary until it’s not.
I joined the gathering and I stood with everyone else, singing along with the music, offering praise to My Favorite. Then we changed to a different song, and the worship continued.
Your love never fails, it never gives up, it never runs out on me…
And suddenly, I felt the air around me shift. I stopped singing.
It felt important to just be in that moment, and wait quietly. And so I did.
In death, in life, I’m confident and covered by the power of Your great love,
My debt is paid, there’s nothing that can separate my heart from Your great love…
I thought about those words.
And then…the Voice broke in.
You confuse the power of love with the ability of love.
My mind stuttered a little upon hearing those words. I’d never even thought about this concept before, that there was a difference.
I began to process it. Love is a power, that much I knew. Love can heal wounds, rescue the lost, deliver the oppressed, restore the broken, provide for the empty…
Well, shoot. Yeah…that’s all about the ability of love. Suddenly I understood that the ability of love is an expression of the power of love, but not the totality of it. So just in case I questioned whether or not He was right…
“So what exactly is the power of love?” I asked Him. “I want to know. I want to understand.”
As I stood, I became aware that something was swirling around me. I was starting to feel really strange and more than a little wobbly. And then, the Voice again.
We can do this however you’d like. You can yield, or you can keep trying to stand.
There was no condemnation attached to the choice. It was a real choice, and I know He spoke it to my heart carefully and on purpose. He knows how much I want to live yielded to Him, but I also want to able to bear up under significant measures of His presence. I need to be able to bear up under significant measures of His presence in order to do the things He’s called me to do. But I don’t want to do so at the expense of yielding to Him.
He spoke it again. You can yield, or you can keep trying to stand. This time I heard the better choice within the question.
It only took me a couple of moments to be face down on the floor. My heart, my questions pouring out as the music took on a new weight. And then the Presence added His own weight.
He didn’t answer my questions. But neither did He leave. He stayed and I lost track of time.
I’m not sure what made me think I could have stood under that weight. I couldn’t even lay flat on the floor under it. I shook like crazy and couldn’t stop. I shook inside, I shook outside.
But still I heard nothing.
I am not sure how long I was down there. I think it was probably a good while. The music was over and had been. When I finally got up, I felt completely wrung out. I also felt…retuned? Recalibrated? I felt like something inside me wasn’t receiving in the same way it had before.
It’s a rather raw feeling, really, and a little electric. As if I might rip out of my skin any moment. As if I might spill out of myself. I’d almost describe it as painful but that’s not quite the right word. I think it’s just that it’s more alive than I know how to bear, and that leaves me more than a little undone.
I still don’t understand love as a power and what that means beyond love’s ability. I know I’ve been operating under a much higher revelation of the love of God over the past years, but I’ve obviously got a lot of room for expansion. I want to grasp it, carry it, embody it.
And I want to live completely yielded to it.
Everyone has a story.
Some people really love to tell their story. Others are private about it. And then there are people like me who, when asked, suddenly can’t seem to remember anything that ever happened to them anytime, anywhere, at any point throughout their lives.
We’re too busy living our stories to think about them, I reckon. Or at least that sounds like a good
excuse reason to me.
Anyway…we all have stories. You, me, the cranky dude at the post office, the waitress who brought your lunch.
My story, if I think about it long enough to begin to dredge it up, has plenty of ups and downs. There have been seasons that have been exciting and awesome, and others that have been downright miserable. But that is how any good story goes.
The shadow proves the sunshine.
I don’t know when my story will be over, but it’s important to me that it ends well. And it seems to me that we’d all benefit to occasionally evaluate our stories to see if they contain the right elements. Of course, those elements will vary from person to person. Otherwise our stories would lack for interesting people to give them salt and spice.
Does it have enough tie-dye?
Does it have a good soundtrack?
Does it have at least one iron-clad relationship with a fierce person?
Does it have at least one sweet relationship with a hugger?
Does it have some awesome shoes?
Does it have enough Holy Spirit wow-factor?
Does it have enough champagne?
Does it have a list of have-tos and want-tos that generously overlap?
Does it have enough fire?
Does it have a handful of weirdo cats?
Does it have enough poppycorn?
Does it have enough laughter?
Does it have enough Jesus?
Does it have enough purple? Enough orange?
Does it have enough challenges to remind me that I’m dependent upon God?
Does it have a good place for napping?
As time goes by I’ll probably need to change it up some. Stories have chapters, after all.
What do you think of your story thus far? Does it need more of something? Less of something?
We don’t get a re-write.
But we also don’t have to let the disappointments of the last chapters determine the quality of the next.
Sometimes I wear glasses.
A lot of times, really.
I had Lasik in 2006 and that fixed the extreme nearsightedness, but Lasik doesn’t prevent the loss of close-up focus that often develops as the eyes age. My corneas also decided to protest the Lasik by forming large raggedy scars that pull them into weird astigmatic shapes. My vision is technically 20/15, but it’s not all that awesome of a 20/15 due to the warped corneas and the need for correction for reading.
Hence the glasses. Progressive lenses, at that.
Know what drives me batty? Smudges on lenses.
Smudges, smears, drips, drops, lint, fuzz—anything that interferes with the clarity of my vision. I like my lenses to be perfectly clean and clear.
But truthfully, keeping my lenses clean can be a heck of a challenge.
We all have lenses. Not just people who wear eyeglasses.
Your lenses are the filter through which you see the world. Your gender, your socioeconomic status, your past experiences, your family background, your personal history, your education, your worldview, your personality, your spiritual beliefs…these are just a few of the elements that comprise our lenses.
And boy, is it easy for those lenses to get a little warped or grimy.
A cop pulls you over and says you rolled through a stop sign you when you are convinced you came to a complete stop? That affects your lenses.
You were raised by a single mom after your dad took off, and she struggled while he just didn’t show up? Yeah…that will definitely affect your lenses.
You asked God for something really important to you and it never materialized? You were voted homecoming king or queen? You were a sickly child? Your spouse was abusive? You were in the gifted class at school? You were teased or bullied when you were growing up? Your parents were super strict and controlling? A church leader treated you poorly?
All those things shape your lenses. For better or worse, you see the world through the filter of your beliefs, your history, your personality. That’s not inherently bad. God made us all intensely and intricately unique, and this is one way our uniqueness is formed and expressed. He is creative and He likes variety.
Sometimes, however, I am acutely aware that my lenses need cleaning and adjusting. I need to see more clearly. I need a higher thought.
I’m lousy at coming up with that change on my own. It’s kind of like when I go to clean my glasses and all I end up doing is smearing the smudge all over the entire lens. Then I see everything through a vague haze.
Irritating, and not very helpful.
It’s so much better when God cleans my lenses.
He is the only One who knows what will make me sidestep my usual personality traits, or disregard my past experiences, or flat-out change my mind. I don’t even know those things about myself.
I count on Him to know those things about me.
I want to see as He sees, and then I want to think about it the way He thinks about it. I want to see the world through eyes of mercy and grace and process it through a heart of love.
That would be a lot better than seeing through eyes of “I’m in a hurry” or “I’m tired” or “I’m annoyed”.
I am used to being one of God’s messier kids. I can’t really change that about myself; it’s better to just accept it and know that if I hang close with Him, He’ll work it out with me and for me.
He’ll keep cleaning my lenses and adjusting my vision.
Today was a last first for the Sparkette.
It was her first day of her senior year of high school.
Oh, I know what you’re thinking. She must have been so excited! I bet she couldn’t wait to get to school and be the big dog on campus!
Well, that would be all well and good if it weren’t for those pesky drama genes that she gets from Mr. Sparky’s side of the family.
Don’t believe me?
This was her response when I told her it was time for her first day of school photo:
She has enjoyed a summer of going to bed late and sleeping in. Her school bell rings at 7:00am sharp, however, so no more of that.
She eventually perked up.
She’s a great kid. She a good kind of weird, the kind that is smart and quick and curious, the kind that brings a ton of laughter to our house. She has never once pulled the “I’m too cool to be seen with my parents” card. She has little interest in misbehaving, and that’s a huge relief to any parent.
The years have flown by, and I’ve no doubt that the coming one will, also. It’s strange to see the end of this stage of our lives looming before us. And yet, as our kids have grown into young adults, it’s also exciting to see what sort of people they choose to become, and what they choose to do with their gifts and talents, as well as how they learn to balance their weaknesses, because let’s face it—that’s an important part of life, too.
So…here she goes, just one more trip through the public school system. She’s off into the world of Digital Design 3 (which I know nothing about) and Trigonometry (which I know nothing about) and U.S. Government, which I know far too much about but it’s probably not the stuff in her textbooks.
It’s going to be a year of lasts for her.
But a year of lasts is necessary in order to launch into a life of firsts.